Are you dating Mr.Right

7 signs he wants to marry you and spend his life with you.

It has been long you are dating with him, but you are still confused about the status of your relationship. You are not able to judge your man whether he is serious or you are just a fling to him. You are confused because at times he gives you all the "signs" that seems everything to be perfect but the moment you initiate the next step in the relationship he runs away like a four-year-old child whose toy-of-liberty is hedged.

This behaviour makes it nearly impossible to tell what men are really thinking. And you just can't ask them anything, because they themselves don't know the exact feeling. So, how do you tell? common baby, the problem come always with the solution, if only you concentrate and try to read his mind at times.

Signs he wants's to marry you and spend his life with you.

Typically men don't talk about their feelings. They believe in showing their emotions through their actions. They will do little things here and there that really let you know how much they care about you. So, this time, when he does the dishes or a cleaning after the dinner, don't take it casually. Understand, he is trying to make you happy, which speaks in volumes--then talk. 

Every guy is different. So, if your man doesn't hang around in the kitchen, don't think that he doesn't care about you. He may order the food to keep you out of the kitchen and spend some "we" time together. Every man has unique qualities to show that he cares about his love in different ways. You need to catch that.

But the signs mentioned below are fairly common to judge whether he is thinking about putting a ring on that finger of yours.

1. He introduces you to his family:

Men may be flirty at times, but when it comes to family, they are very serious. After exchanging those three magical words, a few hugs and kisses, hangouts together, he wants you to get introduced to his family. He asks you to get well dressed in decent clothes and takes you to his home to meet his parents. Although he hasn't proposed you yet, but he still wants his mommy to meet you. 

Now, smile and be happy. I told you men speaks with their actions. This is a clear sign that he is serious about you.

2. He invites you to all his family functions:

Now that you have met his parents and close friends he begins inviting you to all his family functions. It is sure sign that he is thinking you are the one for him, otherwise he wouldn't have introduced you to everybody if he didn't plan on keeping you for a long time.

He also wants them to know that you are just not a perfect fit for him, but a great fit for the family too.

3. He values your opinion on big decisions:

He is booking his new flat or out for a new brand car shopping. Wherever he goes he tags you along with him. His new investment or his new job, you are aware of everything. This speaks in volume that you are only his destination lady.

4. He is open about everything with you:

The most important key to any relationship is trust. If he discusses his insecurities, work issues or any kind of problem he is facing in his life inwardly or outwardly, then you are definitely in his mind all the time and he trusts you for his weaknesses. Be sure, you are the lady of his life.

5. He has got the plans for the future and you are in it:

Does he treat you like the flavor of the week? Are you just his prom girl or you are in his serious talks too. Time to judge him with these signs. Does he talks about the progress of his life or his other future plans like house, job, career etc, etc; If he does, it is a clear indication that you are going to his bride and he always wants you beside him.

6. He talks about kids:

Does your boyfriend dedicate an entire coffee date discussing kids, or he wears a big smile seeing a cute child? He may not say "I want to have kids with you" but you can be sure that he is screening you for the role of wife and mother.

7. He believes in marriage:
There are some people who have lost faith in the sanctity of marriage, thanks to the rising number of divorce rates.
But not your guy. He believes in marriage and even respects this holy institution. Even if people are leaving their spouses, cheating on relationships and getting separated, he wants to give it a shot and also ensures that "he" and "you" won't be adding to the statistics of divorce chart.

It is not easy to know in this fast changing world whether you guy wants to marry you or not, where people change their girlfriends and boyfriends more than their gadgets, without really asking him. But if you can notice quite a few of these signs then you can be rest assured that he sees you as his soulmate.


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Do You Do Pillow Talk--If no Indulge now.

I just want to see you without blinking;

Let the tears flow for I shall not hide anymore;

Let me enter your heart through your eyes;

For I know they won't lie anymore;

I just want to see who resides there;

I promise I won't complain if I am not;

I will close my eyes and rest in peace, but please show me your heart......

Does marriage make love accomplished or love makes marriage accomplished? We cannot answer this question without rethinking. Sometimes relationship becomes monotonous to such an extent that we start taking the most important person in our life for granted. All these are after effects of lack of communication between the partners. 

What is Pillow Talk?

Communication is important in a relationship but finding the right time to communicate can leave both of you feeling drenched in love and bliss. And that's exactly what Pillow Talking is all about.

There are so many things that make a relationship happy. Good memories, beautiful time spend together, great holidays, bad times handled smilingly and many more. Imagine you and your better half after a long tired day unwinding yourself cuddled in each others arms resting shoulders on cushioned pillows and talking about just anything- be it your lives, problems or even your relationship. It feels good listening to each other. Doesn't it? 

That's exactly is my point of view about the pillow talking contrary to the popular belief  that it is associated with sex or with after play. As communication is important for the relationship so is the pillow talking to the romance. It connects the lovers emotionally and physically and bring two lovers close especially if the communication is right for the occasion.

Is it important? Do we really need it?

Pillow Talking does one of the most important things in your relationship. It not only builds the connection and love between you and your partner but also rids the pressures of the day. As you listen to the calm voice of your lover, it soothes you down physically and mentally and, however, bad the day may be you defeat it before sleep. It will relax both of you to open up to more intimate communications without the worry of arguments. 

Slowly and gradually with each passing night, your communication starts to get frank and open and the feeling of love will definitely grow with each passing night.

Time plays and important role in pillow talking. Do we realize that our full day is spent in work, office and children? Staying together under one roof makes us feel companions but at that time of the night, when you are away from all the distractions of the world, just a few minutes of pillow talking will make you feel lovers all again.

There are couples that do pillow talking and there are couples that don't. But the couples that do not indulge in a bit cuddly sleepy conversations will always lack that emotionally connect, a zing in their relationship compared to the couples that pillow talks.

Talks that mingle with bedsheets

Are you a good pillow talker? Life is not a bed of roses, we all know this but to bring the hardships of the day and grudge while sleeping is not a good idea. So, always try to do good pillow talks.

Remember, some conversations make you and your lover feel at the top of the world while a few bad ones can leave you and your better half drained out of your energies as you turn in for good night sleep.

Before we get to the good conversation, let me point on the bad ones you need to avoid.

Do not talk about life miseries, sadness, how unfair the world is to you, your financial troubles or the terrible day at the office or home. Leave these crucial talks for the dining area or coffee table.

Try to look at pillow talking as the bright side of your life. Talk about the happy moments of the day, your achievement in life being together, the silver lining in the dark cloud. Holding each other's hands, cuddling so closely that you can hear each other breathe, dream of a beautiful life together and visualize it together.

If you have a happy conversation while pillow talking your life, your relationship and your own lives will start to feel upbeat and exciting.

6 happy conversations that make pillow talk awesome.

Now that you know what is pillow talk and the importance of it, you may be wondering what are the perfect conversations of pillow talks. Among many these sixes are the best that will make you fall in love all over once again and you will certainly have an upbeat relationship.

#1. Complements: It's time to be flirty and romantic now. Did your spouse pulled you back while bidding goodbye this morning before leaving for the work, because your lover looked irresistible in that outfit. Or, how everyone was staring at last weekend party because you both look just great together. Then talk about it, it will bring a huge smile on your lover's face.

#2. New things try out: Do not worry about anything that went wrong, be it your work, parenting or sex. There is always a second option and another chance. If sex wasn't great last night, then talk about the new things that would include to make it wonderful next time. If your child was not happy with any decision of yours then discuss what would you do next time while discussing that problem again. Always try to see your problems with new perspective and talk about ways to improve it which will make your pillow talks more passionate.

#3. Romantic Memories: Talking about love in bed is always a booster. Ask and tease your partner if they remember the first time they came closer, kissed passionately or that romantic gateway or that first rain when you both drenched together or any loving incident that is a happy memory. One incident will lead to another and so on and before you even know you will feel the most luckiest couple present on this earth.

#4. Vacations: Nothing makes you excite more than talking about a  good vacation or gateways. If you both have been working hard then it's time to take a break and discuss new vacation. Discuss places to go and all other happy vacation ideas. Remember all the cute memories you had in your previous vacation. Both of you will not only feel good but it will also motivate you to achieve your goals faster.  

#5. Past Struggles: Past struggles are always like a milestone, and it is always inspirational if you both have achieved after the struggle or the sacrifice you made. Talking about old struggling days and comparing it to the present day will bring a smile of happiness and contentment in your faces. What better than a contentment of achievement and that too together before a good nights sleep.

#6. Dreams about the future: Pillow talking about each other dreams and visions will help both of you understand each other's lives and goals better. It will also create fantasies about the wonderful future and  both of you will feel great imagine what the future holds. Listening and understand to each other's dreams will also lead to motivate each other for the fulfillment of dreams and visions. It will not only help in bonding better but you also feel the support and trust of your partner.

The more both of you open to each other about your daily lives, the more connected both of you will feel. And as long as both of you are aware of each others life, there will be no room for insecurity, jealousy, and third person entry. There will be room only for love and trust.

Why married man fall for another woman

Akshay. 35. Friendly.Warm. Handsome. Highly accomplished. Married. After seven years of marriage, a beautiful wife, successful in career and a father of a son he realised that life is monotonous. He wanted more from his life and he had much more energy than to be consumed by his wife. He could not wait more and then when Sara entered his life.......

It is very common to come across married men having a relationship with another woman. Perhaps it has been happening since Vedic age, the difference lies only that, that time men had the liberty to marry more than one women, so extramarital affair did not sustain.

Why would it be when you are free to keep even seven wives at your place. But now as we took urbanisation the rules of the society changed and so the laws, but men never changed. Either be it their psychological or emotional need or for the enjoyable intimacy, ego boost or just for the sake of lust and fun, men have always craved for affection from another lady. I am not saying that married woman doesn't cheat (my next article would be on that) but yes comparatively men deserves to be on higher statistics.

I have come across many couples who have faced such bitterness of life and have discussed various points which indicate the reasons why men fall for another woman. What I have learnt will discuss with my readers too.

Men are always loved by the woman, this is a fact. Therefore just as a woman looks for her father figure in another man to fulfill her security needs, a man would also look for a woman who is extra caring to fill that vacuum in his life. This is called psychological and emotional need.
Therefore, it is very important to have an affectionate relationship between the companions.

Even in happy marriage, it is possible for men to have a roving eye or even crave for another woman's love and affection. It may start with locking of the eye, then casual coffee meetings and soon turning into a serious affair. Such kind of affair is done only for the sake of lust and fun.

Both partners should be cautious of any such new acquaintance.

We are in the age of urbanisation and with it comes modernisation, independence and free thinking. We are working in the office where we always interact with the opposite sex. No man can enter a woman's space without her permission and vice versa. If a man gets a loud and clear signal to a relationship then only a few will decline. Men have a tendency to easily fall in love with someone who is open, approachable and is ready to be loved. As I said, we have entered modernisation, women also enjoy alluring men towards them.

Therefore, it is very important to have a clear communication every day and understand your spouse need well.

Whatever were the reasons that connected the man to another woman but now he is enjoying. Sometimes, men with good looks feel like a superhero that the female crave for him or there is another lady (other than his wife) who is in mad love with him and keeps his spirits always high. Same feeling a woman has for another man (other than her spouse) who find her beautiful and attractive and gives her loads of attention.

So, couples keep your ego aside and praise each other and respect feelings.

There is no end to the discussion, I know the readers reading this may have more points to add. Obviously, we can't change the traits of being a man or a woman because opposites always attract. Therefore, to conclude here, I would say that a married man gets charmed by another woman. Not only they fall head over heels but they also gain from the relationship till the time it lasts.

Therefore, it is better in the interest of all that there should be no cheating. Stay married, stay happy.

Please feel free to post your comments.

Next article would be: Why married woman cheats on their spouse.

Going to College- an important transition

" A new place, and new friends to make,

You are there, I am there, new trends will be set,

a life of freedom, joy and fun,

yes, I am 'crazy' on the run".

As I was bidding adieu with a heavy heart and wet eyes to one of the most cherished chapters of my life, there were feelings of excitement and enthusiasm to step into another most awaited phase of life- the college life. My heart had mixed feelings of curiosity and nostalgia as I was extremely excited for that long awaited destination which would give me newly-attained freedom, new friends, hangouts, new dreams and unexplored independence. 

                     

Yes! it has been more than a decade now but still that last day of my school is fresh in my memories. I am sure I am not the only one to save this memory. Everyone does, but the problem lies with most of the parents are that they forget their teenager years, memories of pranks played, their first crushes, stupid fights, late night pyjamas parties and many more naughty acts...not to mention.  The same individual when dealing with their daughter or son as a parent becomes so possessive that a never ending list of do's and won't's is always ready in their pockets. Why parenting becomes so difficult when you have already crossed that road. Rather it should be easy as we can strip the bad and present the best to the children. But while stripping, we can't say that stop exploring and listen as I say. As we all know as a parent, the teenager mind is full of zest and is always curious to explore the other side of the world, which is far from childhood dream's and fantasies. But, we can't help as a parent to see our child getting out of a protective and loving atmosphere of the school to the place which is unknown and  a mixture of good and bad people. 

But we can surely help our children understand the importance of college education and its own rules by imparting these tips and make it memorable. Read it down to your sons and daughters who are college goers or taking the first step of this transition of life.

• " I am thrilled and I just have to look stunning, whatever it may be, at the end, looks do matter"--there is a series of such comments from the very excited college aspirants. And, actually, at this stage of life it is very true. The rage to be with the latest fashion trends is on. Before this day arrives, you get busy with shopping in malls, visiting nail bars, tattoo studios and what not, leaving a big hole in your parents pocket. But do you know that even a completely new haircut will change your personality. The most important thing is to look good, feel good because that will boost your confidence. You don't have to blindly follow the trends to be"In" with the crowd, rather make your own style statement that reflects your true personality.
• You can dress up in a nice pair of fitted jeans with a chick top or a casual shirt or tees. A knee length skirt or a fitted legging which is in vogue these days with a well-fitted kurta is another option. For the guys, a well-fitted pair of jeans or a cargo is the best suited. It can be teamed up with a cool casual shirt or a nice funky T-shirt with some cool prints or texts. The only rule you have to follow is, don't overdo stuff and don't go off track. In awe to look completely different, don't end up looking funny or completely out of place. Remember, the attitude matters more than the attire. Wear the perfect combination of confidence and amiability.
• As the girls are busy making rounds to parlours, the boys are not far behind. Another trick the youngsters do to change their image is body piercing which is common among both boys and girls. It's okay to an extent, but be sure you don't get too wild in doing so that the principal just throws you out of the college. You have just got freedom from that boring school uniform, but remember that you are still a "student". So, whatever you wear, it must be decent and you must carry it with the grace. Now you are adults who know the difference between looking cool and vulgar. Every youngster has a desire to flaunt their micro minis, halter or off-shoulders tops and not to mention that sexy little black dress, but college is just not the place. Preserve them for parties and night outs which will follow soon.
• Apart from dressing up in a proper manner, don't leave out shopping for a funky bag. But, make sure it is spacious enough meant for college and not for the party. Once classes begin, you will have assignments and folders to carry. A comfortable pair of shoes and slip-on is another must have. Do not wear a high heel and do catwalk to grab the attention. Comfort should be the priority. These days malls are flooded with beautiful print shoes, moccasins and loafers. Add them to your wardrobe. If you are those dressy kinds, then some kohl for the eyes and a sexy lip gloss to highlight the lips is a good idea. Loud makeup is a big no-no to the college. After all, no one wants to be "chalta-phirta makeup kee dukan". 
• College means freedom, no more nagging and interference from folks, where you live on your own terms, do what you wish, but don't take advantage of this newly developed freedom. If you use in the wrong way, you will have to be responsible for the consequences that will follow. So just chill, but don't do something that will make a chill run down the spine of your parents.

So, to sum up, an appropriate dress, a funky bag, comfy footwear, cool attitude and to top it all, a pleasing smile, you are all set to rock the world.

Remember, dear youngsters, College means freedom, fun and opportunity to make life long friendships, but amongst all this, you must not forget the prime reason for which you are there. You need to strike a balance. The college provides a self-dependant platform for professional and as well as personal learning. It is the place where innovation, individuality and change are encouraged and embraced. It gives you an environment where you have the freedom of thought and expression in a true sense, where you can be nothing but yourself. It is a transforming phase where you learn by your own mistakes, take risks, invent something new about the world every day, and most importantly, learn to deal with different kinds of people and situations. College years are the time when you learn to be responsible for your own actions. Don't forget that the coming years of your life would shape up on the basis of how you spend your time in college. It does not necessarily mean that you have to be a nerd but there have to be limits. 

Everyone is excited about bunking classes, having crushes, making girlfriends/boyfriends and flirting around but all these constitutes just a "part of" college life. The essential purpose is to prepare yourself for life and chalk out a satisfying and successful career for yourself.

Unable to Solve...Laugh it out.

"We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh".-Agnes Repplier

Have you and your spouse ever found something so funny that you reach to a point where you can't hold your breath and suddenly you feed each other with the innocence of laughter. Mouth wide open a contraction of almost fifteen facial muscles, stimulating oxygenation of blood and reduction in stress.

Yes! Laughter is contagious and, believe me, beneficial to your life and marriage. It is the humor which brings more than the physiological benefits to a husband and wife. Humor helps us cope. It relieves the tension build between people.

If you can find  humor in anything you can survive it. Find humor in your relationship. Studies have revealed that individuals who have a strong sense of humor are less likely to experience depression and are more likely to enjoy life., including their marriage. Laughter produces a chemical called Oxytocin referred to as a bonding chemical. 

Not convinced yet?

Okay. .stop taking life so seriously; we aren't getting out of it alive anyway. So lighten up.

"Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment"-Buddha.

365 days Beauty Planner

February is on and so the season of love. Valentine's Day is arriving and I am sure everyone wants to look the best.Beauty is not a one-day achievement, it is a constant effort with disciplined routine. Not everyone is born "Cleopatra" but a toned body, glowing complexion and shining tresses is enough to boost your confidence. So follow my monthly tips for 12 months and I am sure you will thank me in 2017. Let us start with the month when cupid was born to shower love on us. 

February

1st week

Previous months were festive  loaded with parties and foods laden with high carbs and sweets. Weigh yourself again..And instead of shedding tears join a gym. If exercise is not your cup of tea, do not worry. Sign up for salsa or any other dance form or even yoga. These days yoga is redefined. But get fit.

2nd week

Before your daily shower, massage your body with oil (you can add 4 tablespoons of olive oil with 4 drops of eucalyptus oil). While you shower use a loofah to slough off the dead shins. I bet you will have a glowing skin in no time. Keep doing the full week.

3rd week

Stop procrastinating and make regular waxing a part of your routine. Keep eyebrows in shape. Indulge in facial and from this year onwards make it a habit of doing it at least once a month especially if you are above 25. Try exotic varieties like chocolate, wine or fruits. If really strapped for cash then bleach your face. A cleaner complexion is an added perk. You can even try this. Mash or puree fruits and apply to your skin. Fruits are rich in alpha-hydroxy acids that act as exfoliants. This will certainly add a soft glow to your skin.

4th week

Go for a complete health check-up; gynecological, mammogram, dental check-up, blood pressure, and blood sugar, cholesterol and eye check-up. If you have already started then great, otherwise please give a start, because a healthy body is essential for looking good.

Follow the regime strictly and stay connected for the month of March. (special on Woman's Day)